It has been a while since I titled one of these with something besides “administrivia.”
An interesting side-effect of me running this site is that once in a very great while, a complete stranger will email me. Not a big deal; I’m an easy find, on purpose. (I used to not be public about my identity, and then realized I didn’t give two shits.) You would be surprised how often it’s been someone with an actual connection to Rory, which has freaked me out more than a little, though that hasn’t happened in a long time. But sometimes it’s another fangirl (not meaning to be dismissive; I call myself a fangirl) who likes to go down internet rabbit holes about Rory, and then presents me her findings to bounce them off me and see what I think. It’s kind of fun. I used to search for stuff like that but damn, that’s been four or five years gone now — I’ve been in kind of a personal almost-life-and-death struggle more often than not. So it’s nice someone’s helping me out. I didn’t ask. They’re just being helpful.
I don’t mean they’re breaking into anything they don’t belong in. There are places where orphan news articles end up that mention Rory in some capacity. These articles used to be on the websites of the publications that first published them, but those publications have since removed the articles because they are old, so you have to look to archive sites and mirror sites to find them. I really wish publications would quit being assholes about this — you’re supposed to be papers of record, for fuck’s sake, and text files do not require much storage space — but, here we are. Unfortunately. So I’m glad anyone stored them at all, and this is why I store articles here too. The more repeats, the better. Anyway, that’s where people look. It’s no secret. It’s all public record.
There are other public records too. Again, no big secret. Just stuff.
I said all that to say this: I am pondering making a change to the bio section, specifically about Rory’s family. If I do that it will not be as a “gotcha,” it will just be to make a more complete record, because I do that here. I don’t want the rest of you getting the fucking vapors, getting offended, or whatever other negative thing you can come up with. Like I said, it’s public record already. Freely accessible. Hell, some of you have likely seen this stuff already and you thought it was supposed to be classified info so you don’t talk about it. That is your decision. I might make a different one.
But I gotta think about this some more, about whether it’s worth the drama. There will probably be drama. I’m really not up for that at the moment.
Let me get this out of the way, too: it’s nothing to do with his wife. I have reason to believe I recently learned her name and you will not see me announce it here or anywhere else. That’s a line I won’t cross. I don’t know if they have kids, but I wouldn’t name them either. This person I’m talking about is an adult male — someone older than Rory, in fact. FYI.
“What’s the vexing question?”
Just whether to update his bio with this new info. I might, I might not. I haven’t decided yet. No, this is not a ploy to get Rory to talk to me. (Let’s just get that out of the way right now.) I just want to make it clear that if I do add this info, it’s not to be an asshole and it wasn’t on a whim. I really did give it serious thought. That is all. Carry on.